When I hear women say, “I’ll just marry someone rich,” it’s like nails going down a chalkboard. It gets right under my skin. Women are giving up their power just to get out of a financial jam. It’s a very long-term solution to a short-term problem. It seems to me that these women want someone else to rescue them and put them in a stronger financial position. They want to be able to put their feet up and rely on someone else’s hard work. Only an indolent woman is impressed by a man with money.
I know people who have married men for the lifestyle that they thought they wanted and they are miserable. When money is the foundation for the relationship, it doesn’t take long for resentment about other issues to creep in. These women now feel trapped. They have to keep the relationship going because it is their financial lifeline. They can’t be themselves. They have no power to stand up for themselves or walk out of the bad relationship. Dr. Phil says: “If you marry someone for their money you are probably going to pay for it.”
I would rather make my own fortune than marry a man for money.
Joan Baker agrees with me. In her book, A Man Is Not a Financial Plan, she discusses how anyone can be financially independent if they do one thing – invest. She talks about the where, when and how of investing so that you don’t have to rely on a man for personal wealth.
Cinderella didn’t expect a prince to rescue her. She was just a girl out on the town and she met a great guy. She didn’t hang around and give him her phone number. He had to chase her.
Allowing someone to take care of your money is like allowing someone to control your life.
American author Mandy Hale says: “A busy, vibrant, goal-oriented woman is so much more attractive than a woman who waits around for a man to validate her existence.”
You are the She. E.O of your own life. It’s time to build your own empire.